Three Words of Appreciation
Story By: Kristina YouYoung Kim Editor: Paul Kim Web Designer: Li June Choi
As children, we are often forced to listen to our mothers’ petty criticisms about everything from academics to our personal lives. Although I know that such remarks are out of my mother’s love for me, and that she means the best for me, I have never been able to bring myself to be fond of them. However, it was only when I saw my mother in anguish that I finally understood that even these naggings of my mother are to be cherished.
At 2:10pm, March 30, 2016, my maternal grandmother had a cardiac arrest. As it was my first time to encounter a family member close to me suffer, it was my first time to witness my mother so grief-stricken. I could do nothing but helplessly watch my mother, who had always been a figure of solace and strength, suffer. She spoke of her regrets towards not being appreciative of all that my grandmother had sacrificed and endured for my mother and her siblings.
As it is said, family is a gift from God. Yet, the value of family and parents to children today has dramatically diminished due to the increased usage of technology among children.
Through using various technological devices and social networking websites to communicate with their friends, children obtain a sense of independence and freedom from parents. This serves as a sense of “freedom from over-involvement and intrusion on the part of their parents in their lives” states Dr. Jim Taylor, a psychology professor. On the other hand, “parents… see it as a loss of connection to their children and an inability to maintain reasonable oversight, for the sake of safety and overall health, of their children’s lives,” Dr. Taylor adds on. In accordance with Dr. Taylor, Lyn Mikel Brown, a professor at Colby College studying the behavior of children, claims, “the clear message is how important it is for children to unplug, to live a balanced life, and increase quality face-to-face time with the people important to them.” We easily spend hours talking to a friend online, but how much time do we spend with our parents?
The simple, yet often overlooked, step towards enriching our lives consists of three words: “I love you.” “Umma sarangahae.” Three words with unfathomable value, three words that we can never say enough to those we adore and appreciate. Just like our mothers.